Conflict vs. Bullying: How to Tell the Difference

Written by Sarah Vernetti

In order to help stop bullying, the first step is to have a good understanding of what exactly qualifies as bullying behavior. We all have conflict in our lives from time to time, whether it's getting into an argument with a friend or bickering with a sibling. However, not all conflicts are considered bullying.

What's the difference between bullying and conflict? It comes down to power. Are both of the parties equal? Or is one person using their age, status, or physical strength to overwhelm the other person?

In normal conflicts, both people involved are capable of finding a solution to the problem. It is in both people's best interest to resolve the disagreement, and even though they may get angry, both parties are hoping for some kind of resolution. Usually a solution can be found by talking things out, even if it requires the help of an adult.

Unlike normal conflict, bullying is a form of abuse. There is an imbalance of power: the bully is usually older, bigger, or more popular than the victim, and the bully uses this power to control the situation. Intimidation is often involved in bullying, unlike normal conflict. Although a solution is possible, the bully isn't hoping to resolve the problem. Often, the victim is unable to defend him or herself.

Remember, it is important for bullying victims and those who witness bullying (bystanders) to talk to a trusted adult like a parent or teacher. Unlike normal conflict, bullying can be more difficult to resolve, since the target probably feels intimidated by the bully, and there is an imbalance of power.

To learn more about bullying, join the Youth Ambassadors for Kids Club (A4K Club) today. Members will have access to bullying information and resources that can help educate them on the dangers of bullying and how to prevent it. Visit www.a4kclub.org for more information.